Welcome to another week in paradise…

Monday:

Just your average day at work. I turned up to a school placement and the student wasn’t there. Rang her and she had forgotten I was coming!🙄

Had an interesting new student who we will call eccentric!😬 He wanted to argue against pretty much everything I said, so it was really hard not to snap at him by the end!

Still not talking to GH. It’s getting beyond a normal argument now! He attempted to ask how my day had been and then said he’s “enjoying the silence!”  So the ignoring tactic is certainly not having the desired effect!😤

Tuesday:

Today I actually got a bit further with my to do list because tutoring got cancelled.  I have arranged to go and see the accountant at work re. our tax debacle on Thursday and fingers crossed she can sort some of the mess out!

Other than that it was just your average day of errands, gymnastics and pilates – in the right location this time!🙊

Wednesday:

Had a pleasant day at work with everyone doing what they should!😲

I did, however, have an ant infestation at my desk, so I located a disgustingly corroded can of bug spray and fumigated the office to the point where I could no longer breathe!😷

I should have shown you the disgusting can, but wanted you to keep reading to the end!🙊

Was planning on going to Zumba after work but Dani texted to say she had a free ticket to the Nutrimetics Christmas party. Free food, wine and goody bag, so I couldn’t say no!  Still wasn’t talking to Ian, so just gave Mia a kiss goodnight when Dani picked me up and flounced out!

We had to sit through a showcase of the new Nutrimetic products, so got a second glass of wine (which was slightly frowned at!😬) and sat back. It was quite good actually, but around halfway through, Ian started calling my phone incessantly.  I couldn’t answer, so kept knocking it to voicemail but he wasn’t getting the message and kept going, so at the first opportunity I dashed outside to listen to them.  Apparently it was really important, but he couldn’t tell me what it was!  Hmmm…I figured if it was that important, he would have told me what it was.

Got home around 9:30pm (so not late) and realised I didn’t have my key!  It was still in my “going out” handbag from the other night!🙈Dani and her friend waited as I knocked on the door but the lights were off.  The next minute, Ian was buzzing the garage door open and standing there in the headlights in his underpants!🙊I had to stifle a laugh because I don’t think he realised he was going to be exposing himself to an audience, but he also looked like he’d just woken up and was mad!😡

He interrogated me about where I’d been and I was trying to keep up the silent treatment, but had to admit defeat (grrrrr!) and spell out that I wasn’t going to talk to him until he apologised for the things he said the other night, but I had to talk to him to tell him that’s what I was doing, as it clearly wasn’t obvious enough!😒

Ian said that he thought I needed to apologise for starting the argument in the first place (?!) and then went on a big rant about the bank account and how a cheque had come out for this amount and what was this amount to Queensland Police for etc. When I worked out what he was talking about, I informed him that the cheque had been paid in, but hadn’t cleared yet and the payment was for Mia’s gymnastics at the PCYC!  I think he felt a bit silly and had just jumped to conclusions because he’s basically pissed off at the whole situation currently!  But so am I!  I told him that I didn’t start the argument, the things he said were unforgivable and I would be resuming the silent treatment again unless he apologised and huffed off to bed!😤

Thursday:

Went to the chiropractor this morning and he said: “Whoa! Why so tense?!” as soon as I sat down in front of him.  I said that things were tense at home but didn’t go into detail as Mia was with me.  Apparently my whole digestive system and liver aren’t happy, so I’ll just add those to my list of failing body parts, shall I?! I’m starting to think that my list of normally functioning parts would be the shorter of the two!☹️

Took Mia to ballet and there was the biggest hail storm while we were there, which was quite exciting, but when I got home I discovered that a hailstone had chipped my windscreen! It could have been worse though, as some people had skylights, windows and cars badly damaged!

Ian tried to talk to me normally as if nothing had happened! “Still waiting for an apology first, buddy!”😒

Friday

A policeman came to playgroup to talk to the kids. It turned out later that he was meant to go and see the kindy kids next door but had come in the wrong entrance! We were happy to steal him to talk to our kids, but when we informed him of the mix-up, he was a bit shirty! We sent him over to kindy and then I grabbed my phone and ran after him to get pics of Mia (who was actually at kindy!) taking part, so I think the policeman thought “Why is this crazy woman stalking me with her iPhone?!”🙊

I do love a good emergency services photo!💁🏼🙊

Ian came home from work and informed me that he was getting a taxi to the yard to drink with his workmates!  This annoyed me:

A) because that’s a complete waste of money when we don’t have any!

B) I’d had to transfer some money from Mia’s savings account into our current account so that we could go to the Halloween party at the pub with our friends later (which he was meant to be going to too, I might add!)

C) He was standing counting a wad of money which made me question where that was from?!?

D) He could have ordered an Uber and saved some money at least!

E) I couldn’t tell him any of the above because I am still carrying on the “not talking to him until he apologises” charade (which is clearly working out really well for me!)😫

Mia and I went to the family dinner/Halloween party with all the other families whose Dads can be bothered/remember to show up! She had a great time playing on the playground and getting her face painted.  It was also my friend’s little girl’s birthday party there at the same time, so there were a lot of familiar faces.

My friends asked where Ian was, so I filled them in on the situation.

We got home pretty late and he still wasn’t home, but he walked in while I was getting Mia ready for bed and assumed I was going out because I was dressed nicely!  (Admittedly it’s not a regular occurrence!). I tried to avoid talking to him but he was demanding to know where we’d been and it all seemed a bit silly in front of Mia, so told him. Silence broken!

As soon as she was in bed, he was in an argumentative mood and wanted to know what he was going to do for dinner! I said I would have thought that by 9:30pm he would have sorted dinner out and he should have come to the pub with us!

He was pretty drunk and said some horrible things again, but I’m proud of myself for not reacting this time and letting it all wash over me.  I’m aware that frustrates him and makes him lash out even more, but he’s going to have a pretty sore head in the morning from the looks of things so that will be his karma!😝

Saturday:

My alarm went off, but I couldn’t move as I was exhausted.  I think I’m more mentally and emotionally drained than anything but I couldn’t talk myself into parkrunning.

I thought “I might just stay in bed and let Ian take Mia to her swimming lesson” and then remembered he can’t bloody drive!😒

Stopped at the shop on the way back from swimming to stock up for tonight’s Mums night at Cass’ house! Mentioned it very loudly to Mia in the kitchen, so Ian could hear me and I didn’t have to tell him then! So petty I know, but I thought I was definitely getting an apology after last night’s outburst, but no!  So he is either:

A) the most stubborn man alive

B) he was that drunk last night he can’t remember what happened

C) he really doesn’t give a shit!

I appear to be quite partial to a multiple choice at the moment for no apparent reason. Oh and I’m edging for D) All of the above!😩

It was Mum’s birthday today so I had a bit of a reflective afternoon.  Ugh, I really wish I could have a conversation with her about everything that is going on!😔

Me and Mum, with me at around the same age as Mia is now!💕

I got picked up by Cass to go to her house for the shindig, which was amazing because:

A) I could run out of the door with maximum impact

B) I didn’t have to drive and could therefore get shitfaced

C) I didn’t have to spend money on a taxi or Uber

D) I thought it gave me an air of mystery!

E) Here I go with the multiple choice again!

As I shouted “Cass is here to pick me up!”, Mia got all confused as our dog is called Cass and quite how she thought a Staffy could drive a car, I don’t know, but it happened in her 5 year old brain, completely messing up options A and D of the multiple choice! Foiled by a 5 year old’s nonsensical questions! Damn it!🙊

Anyway, I was eventually free!  We had lots of yummy food, loads of yummy drinks and watched the movie Embrace, which was quite inspiring as it was all about self-love, which is the only kind I’m getting at the moment anyway, so pretty apt!

We got onto general chat and one friend asked how my fertility treatment was going…I hadn’t written that blog yet and couldn’t go into it, especially not half-sloshed, so just said “yeah!” which didn’t really answer anything, but seemed to work and one friend that knew that it was BS didn’t dob me in thankfully!😅

Plenty of food, drink and conversation.  Just what the doctor ordered!

Taxi home and collapse! A good night!🥂

Sunday:

So hungover!🤢  Had to get up and go to a Frozen movie singalong! Nooooooo!😷😷😷 I really had to psych myself up for this one! If I didn’t love my crazy daughter more than life itself, I wouldn’t have done it!  It also doesn’t help that she doesn’t forget the plans we make. Ever!  We met up with two of her little friends and Mums there though and the hysteria was cute for a second. Then I sat in my seat and closed my eyes for some of it while the girls twirled and “Let it go” to their hearts’ content.

Two perfectly posed princesses…and my daughter!  Ah well!🤷🏼‍♀️

I then went home and crawled back into bed, happy to leave Ian to it, as I felt I had done my parenting deed for the day and hungover to boot!  Do I get more points for that?!

Talk to you next week!😴😴😴